Masks we wear in our life.
Do we really wear masks in our everyday life? What are they? Is it a necessity or hypocrisy?
The majority of professions need you to be someone you are not, to behave as you don’t get used to(40 hours a week you can present a severe mask of police investigator while the rest time you are the funniest and the kindest person in the world). To be a parent also means to play a role: during the process of upbringing, while you feel boundless love to your children, you have to wear mask of a teacher to learn them how to behave, prohibit some things and even punish. Casual politeness and good manners make us wear the mask of friendliness to people especially older than we are or not very familiar. We hide our real emotions, foster some traits we hadn’t before, often we have the perfect image, idol( it can be a famous person)in our heads and try to correspond to it.
Often our appearance helps us to create an image and get the feel of our role faster: clothes, make up, hairstyle. 20 minutes before mirror in the morning and housewife miraculously changes into the strictest solicitor.
But sometimes people wear rather hypocritical masks when they for example pretend to be your friend just to find out some information or just because they see some benefit out of this friendship, etc.
Anyway the thing is not to lose your real face while wearing different masks and not to mix roles and situations, e.g. not to be a teacher at home or all-forgiving mother while managing the big factory. So whether you wear any mask or not - don’t overdo.
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Is lying if ever justified?
Actually, most of us start lying in the childhood while saying "I don't know anything, I didn't take sweets from the table" not to be punished or prohibited doing something. So maybe it is one of the traits of human nature. And while we are kids it may look even funny, such tiny obvious lies. But as soon as we grow up and the things to lie about become serious, there occurs the question "Is lying if ever justified?"...
I think sometimes it is. There is a notion called "white lie" when you lie not to hurt one's feelings or not to worry your parents, for example. Another version is lying by omission, when you just hold back something, for example, not telling everything about your property to the person you are hardly familiar with if he/she asks you. The thing is try to predict the consequences of your lying, to imagine the reaction, the feelings of people, whom you lied, if your dishonesty will ever be revealed. Will it really be understood and forgiven?
Actually, most of us start lying in the childhood while saying "I don't know anything, I didn't take sweets from the table" not to be punished or prohibited doing something. So maybe it is one of the traits of human nature. And while we are kids it may look even funny, such tiny obvious lies. But as soon as we grow up and the things to lie about become serious, there occurs the question "Is lying if ever justified?"...
I think sometimes it is. There is a notion called "white lie" when you lie not to hurt one's feelings or not to worry your parents, for example. Another version is lying by omission, when you just hold back something, for example, not telling everything about your property to the person you are hardly familiar with if he/she asks you. The thing is try to predict the consequences of your lying, to imagine the reaction, the feelings of people, whom you lied, if your dishonesty will ever be revealed. Will it really be understood and forgiven?
Some spontaneous thoughts...
I would like to start with a thought ..."mess in my head". I hope everybody, not only me,) had such a feeling when you for example sit down to write a composition and there is no single thought concerning the theme in your head, but there are also cases when you have so many thoughts simultaneously that you can't concentrate and take one to think over it in an appropriate way, they all seem to you important and interesting and they atack your brain with the sound speed. And I can't say which case is better, because in both you have zero results but in the second one you can even have insomnia.) I still can't find the reason, because I didn't notice any connection with whether the theme is difficult/easy or (un)interesting for you. It just happens sometimes. Maybe someone knows the way of putting thoughts in order? Share, be so kind=)
The next thought is... let's call it "dreaming correctly". I don't know whether you heard about it or not, anyway, I will tell you. So, there is a theory that when you dream about something constantly, making the clear visual image of it, thinking that you've already got it, the universe delivers it to you. And you even shouldn't search the ways of getting it, THEY will find you, like sudden promotion, an idea of a new profitable business in your head, new connections, inspiration, whatever. Your part is to concentrate on your dream and always think in a positive way about it, that is the most difficult thing - because we always let in doubts in our heads, like "what if it won't...?" and these fears not to succeed transfer our dreams to the starting point and raise the probability of failure.
You surely heard the statement "our thoughts are material", so, I believe it's true in a way, whether you fear something or desire something strongly - you attract it and the more you think about it the more it is likely to happen. I remembered the case when I failed my exam in history on the first course when I didn't know the single question out of 24 and I got it because I thought "Not only 24th" before the exam while the right way was to think about the favourite 15th question and imagine how I get the list from the table, turn it over and here it is - number15! Hope you will practise dreaming and get what you want, putting aside all your fears and doubts. Just remember and believe- dreams come true, BUT be careful and provident while making them...
I would like to start with a thought ..."mess in my head". I hope everybody, not only me,) had such a feeling when you for example sit down to write a composition and there is no single thought concerning the theme in your head, but there are also cases when you have so many thoughts simultaneously that you can't concentrate and take one to think over it in an appropriate way, they all seem to you important and interesting and they atack your brain with the sound speed. And I can't say which case is better, because in both you have zero results but in the second one you can even have insomnia.) I still can't find the reason, because I didn't notice any connection with whether the theme is difficult/easy or (un)interesting for you. It just happens sometimes. Maybe someone knows the way of putting thoughts in order? Share, be so kind=)
The next thought is... let's call it "dreaming correctly". I don't know whether you heard about it or not, anyway, I will tell you. So, there is a theory that when you dream about something constantly, making the clear visual image of it, thinking that you've already got it, the universe delivers it to you. And you even shouldn't search the ways of getting it, THEY will find you, like sudden promotion, an idea of a new profitable business in your head, new connections, inspiration, whatever. Your part is to concentrate on your dream and always think in a positive way about it, that is the most difficult thing - because we always let in doubts in our heads, like "what if it won't...?" and these fears not to succeed transfer our dreams to the starting point and raise the probability of failure.
You surely heard the statement "our thoughts are material", so, I believe it's true in a way, whether you fear something or desire something strongly - you attract it and the more you think about it the more it is likely to happen. I remembered the case when I failed my exam in history on the first course when I didn't know the single question out of 24 and I got it because I thought "Not only 24th" before the exam while the right way was to think about the favourite 15th question and imagine how I get the list from the table, turn it over and here it is - number15! Hope you will practise dreaming and get what you want, putting aside all your fears and doubts. Just remember and believe- dreams come true, BUT be careful and provident while making them...
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